Drop the Hate

I want to be a little bit serious in this post. Gender and sexual identity is a polarizer and it's one of those things that people take way too far on the hate cycle. I saw a post circulating about boycotting a company because they allow transgendered folk to us the washroom of the gender to which they identify.

The fuck. Really.

Not that they would allow this - but that folks would get pissed off about it.

1. Women's washrooms aren't like men's washrooms. They have stalls. Just like women's shower rooms in gyms. Not like the men's room. There are stalls. I know that we all dream about the 80s movie shower scene with women showering together. It doesn't happen. Those films are shot in the men's room because T&A and softcore implied lesbian shower scenes sell to boys between the age of balls dropping and balls hitting the floor. There is literally nothing to see here. So if you're railing against people being exposed to something - the only thing that you see in a women's washroom are four walls and a fucking mess because women's bathrooms are filthy.

2. Gender is not as black and white as you may like to think it is. There is a spectrum of gender identity and sexual identity that has been scientifically observed and verified. (BECAUSE FUCKING SCIENCE!). Me - I don't understand it because I'm a heterosexual male with parts that line up with how I understand myself in the social order that we have. I know what it's like to be me - and I don't know what it's like to be someone else. So who the fuck am I to say what someone else is or should be experiencing if it is biologically determined (again BECAUSE FUCKING SCIENCE!)

3. Theologically - and I'm a theologically conservative Christian guy - the Bible doesn't anticipate the situation that we're dealing with now. Pull out the 7 hammer texts - they deal with gang rape, cultic sexuality in a tribal society, temple prostitution, and a promiscuous culture that is based on a hedonistic perspective on life (idolatry). They do not address biological sexual identity (BECAUSE FUCKING SCIENCE!), gender identity, or anything resembling the lives being lived by those who are LGBTQ. God doesn't hate them. Though God does tend to hate pompous Pharisees who miss the point of the Law.

4. Which is to love. Why the fuck are you wasting your time hating on people who really don't affect you.

Here's a thought - you do you.

If you don't think a particular thing is kosher according to your beliefs - don't do them. Don't impose that on other folks. If you value freedom then our systems of laws shouldn't be about limiting people in what they do except for in instances where it causes actual harm to others. So don't kill - don't steal - don't play Justin Bieber songs loud enough for other people to hear. That's reasonable restriction on human activity. But if someone identifies as a woman and wants to pee in a place where she feels safe - in the confines of four walls where nobody can see - and where idiot men aren't going to harass and harm her - then let her. And if two women want to break down the walls of a shower stall by the power of their love and express in a healthy way the sexuality that we pervert in our fantasies - then all that really does is add love to the world.

Isn't that a good thing?

There's enough hate in the world.

Stop adding to it.

-W