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Monday 24 November 2014
Monday 17 November 2014
Thursday 6 November 2014
The Podcast
I've got a new project in the works. The Aeven Pub podcast. I figured it's about time we had a podcast for this thing and, really, why shouldn't we.
So here's how it's going to work. I'm going to set up a TinyChat time. I'm going to invite a few folks along. We're going to have a chat. I'm going to upload it. I'll have some topics we can riff on and we'll see what happens. It's very likely that you'll get to be on an episode.
Then - you're going to download it. And listen to it. And like it dammit. And share it with your friends. And we'll all be so damned phamous and pleased with ourselves.
Or whatever. I do this for fun and it should be fun. So here's the inaug. Be ready for this. There is a link at the top that will host the archive and player. They are going to be downloadable.
Wikky
So here's how it's going to work. I'm going to set up a TinyChat time. I'm going to invite a few folks along. We're going to have a chat. I'm going to upload it. I'll have some topics we can riff on and we'll see what happens. It's very likely that you'll get to be on an episode.
Then - you're going to download it. And listen to it. And like it dammit. And share it with your friends. And we'll all be so damned phamous and pleased with ourselves.
Or whatever. I do this for fun and it should be fun. So here's the inaug. Be ready for this. There is a link at the top that will host the archive and player. They are going to be downloadable.
Wikky
Tuesday 4 November 2014
Nobody's out to get you...
A little sociological rambling...
Do the math: how many minutes a day do you think about other people? Not other people in general but other people specifically? Separate it out from when you are actually in direct contact with them or creeping their facebook. How many minutes a day do you think about other people when you are not with them?
I did the math once. I spent a month with a stopwatch in my pocket. I would click it when I was thinking about someone else, what they were doing, or something they'd done. I included, for the purpose of calculation, times when I was with someone else and we were talking about a third person. So gossip was in.
I put it into a spreadsheet. Did the calculations and it was pretty consistent: 38 minutes a day.
I categorized the thoughts in a journal. About 12% of the time I was thinking about something (just over three minutes) that somebody else was doing. About 22 percent of the time I was thinking about their clothing/appearance/fantasizing. The rest of the time I was thinking about what they were thinking about me.
I was worried about acceptance, or about a mistake, or about love, or about rejection.
At the end of it all I came to this conclusion: nobody's out to get you. People aren't really talking behind your back. In fact, unless you are there or fresh in their mind people aren't thinking about you at all.
There are, of course, times in your life when you think that you are more visible than others - but even then - chances are that you are barely on the thought spectrum of other people.
So here's what I did. I reclaimed that 30 minutes a day by not worrying about what other people were thinking about me - because they probably aren't thinking about me. And if they are - they're probably fantasizing about me - and as long as that doesn't end up in some weird WickedFrost fanfic I'm probably okay with that. (I'm just kidding - write me into whatever fantasy you want).
The results: freedom. Stress drops significantly. Confidence increases substantially. Relationships are closer by far. And drama? I save it for the forums because that's how we roll.
I write this to encourage you - set your mind on things that are excellent and good. The other shit probably isn't real. Because math.
-W
Do the math: how many minutes a day do you think about other people? Not other people in general but other people specifically? Separate it out from when you are actually in direct contact with them or creeping their facebook. How many minutes a day do you think about other people when you are not with them?
I did the math once. I spent a month with a stopwatch in my pocket. I would click it when I was thinking about someone else, what they were doing, or something they'd done. I included, for the purpose of calculation, times when I was with someone else and we were talking about a third person. So gossip was in.
I put it into a spreadsheet. Did the calculations and it was pretty consistent: 38 minutes a day.
I categorized the thoughts in a journal. About 12% of the time I was thinking about something (just over three minutes) that somebody else was doing. About 22 percent of the time I was thinking about their clothing/appearance/fantasizing. The rest of the time I was thinking about what they were thinking about me.
I was worried about acceptance, or about a mistake, or about love, or about rejection.
At the end of it all I came to this conclusion: nobody's out to get you. People aren't really talking behind your back. In fact, unless you are there or fresh in their mind people aren't thinking about you at all.
There are, of course, times in your life when you think that you are more visible than others - but even then - chances are that you are barely on the thought spectrum of other people.
So here's what I did. I reclaimed that 30 minutes a day by not worrying about what other people were thinking about me - because they probably aren't thinking about me. And if they are - they're probably fantasizing about me - and as long as that doesn't end up in some weird WickedFrost fanfic I'm probably okay with that. (I'm just kidding - write me into whatever fantasy you want).
The results: freedom. Stress drops significantly. Confidence increases substantially. Relationships are closer by far. And drama? I save it for the forums because that's how we roll.
I write this to encourage you - set your mind on things that are excellent and good. The other shit probably isn't real. Because math.
-W
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